“Until you make the unconscious conscious
it will direct your life
and you will call it Fate” C.G. Jung
Claire Dyson BA (Hons). Integrative-Relational Counselling and Registered Member (Accredited) of the BACP.
I help you get the most from relationships be it your relationship with yourself, your relationship with others, your relationship with your partner or your relationship with food.
I do this by offering a non-judgemental breathing space in which you can put the World on hold and, with no one making demands on you, reflect, pinpoint what’s really troubling you, get to the root cause then choose what, if anything, you want to do about it.
I work with individuals with many issues particularly high anxiety, mild to moderate depression, anger outbursts and other behaviour people find upsetting or difficult.
I work with couples on their relationship, particularly when the same old arguments keep going round and round like Groundhog day.
I work with those who have a troubled relationship with food specifically those who eat their feelings by turning to food rather than to people for soothing and comfort. Who HASN’T turned to crisps, chocolate, to fridge or to freezer for comfort? We have the term comfort eating after all, the trouble starts when it’s the “go to strategy” several times a day. We begin to put on weight (often frighteningly fast) and THEN the focus becomes losing weight with all the attendent “why can’t I do this, I am such a failure, I am so disgusting / useless / whatever-you-say-to-yourself” self talk and, in a vicious irony, when upset, you eat which makes things even worse by kicking the whole horrible cycle off again. Here is some feedback from people with whom I have worked on this. You may not even realise you are eating your emotions so good have some people become at suppressing them. If you are baffled by sporadic bouts of uncontrollable overeating which feels compulsive, addictive even, then this could be you. Also known as comfort eating, emotional eating or binge eating.
I am an “integrative-relational counsellor” meaning once I have met you, I pick the best from several types of therapy (buzzwords you may have heard like CBT, person-centred, humanistic, psychodynamic, mindfulness and so on) to make a blend tailored to you. Like a bespoke scent made especially for you rather than pushing you through the same old sheep dip regardless of your preferences or needs.
Research shows* that of all the factors determining how well therapy goes our therapeutic relationship accounts for 30% of likely success, hence “relational” and my studying a degree which taught me how to make best use of our relationship.
I have worked as part of the teams delivering counselling to patients at two busy Surrey GP surgeries and I work with The Counselling Partnership, a BACP accredited charity which offers counselling for anxiety and depression from three locations in Surrey.
I also run a private practice from my base in Weybridge. Before training as a counsellor I worked for 28 years in the private sector so I have insight into the stresses and strains of balancing work and life as well as experience of the ups and downs of life generally.
Broadly people come to me for one of two reasons:
They’re stuck in a situation which has become intolerable and they feel powerless to do anything about it. The work here is to help them see that they do have choices, that their situation (or their attitude towards it) can be changed.
Presenting issues might be: anger outbursts, high anxiety (which may involve panic attacks), compulsive eating (my area of special interest), feeling overwhelmed by life, stress, sexual orientation at odds with sexuality presented and low self-esteem.
something terrible has happened to them (or someone they know). In this situation my role is to support the client as they assimilate what has happened, accommodate it and find a new way to go on. The work starts with sitting with them in their pain and distress for as long as it takes for their anguish to move from “front and centre from waking to sleeping” to “present with out being completely debilitating”. Then the work shifts to helping them adjust their lives to a “new normal”.
An example would be any great loss so: death, relationship break-up, diagnosis with a terminal illness or dementia, caring for someone with dementia, the reality of encroaching old age, miscarriage, circumstantial childlessness, confidence or a job (and with it a sense of who they are).
My approach is not only to work with you on those, apparently mystifying, forces that hold you in a tangled and unhappy present but also draw on your strengths as we go so as to boost your self-belief that you can untangle your life.
To find out more probably the best thing to do is come along and experience what it would be like to work together by having a (non-chargeable) “chemistry test” session.
To book please call +44 (0)7950 986 085 or email email@example.com
I look forward to hearing from you and to the prospect of working with you.
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* = Assay, T. P., & Lambert, M. J. (1999). The empirical case for the common factors in therapy: Quantitative findings. In M. A. Hubble, B. L. Duncan, & S. D. Miller (Eds.), The heart and soul of change: What works in therapy (pp. 33-56). Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.